Although statistics show that most men never rape, the overwhelming majority of rapists are indeed male. We ask men to make a promise to be a different kind of man—one who values equality and whose strength is not used for hurting.
1.Be Aware of Language. We live in a society in which words often cut down or put down women. Avoid words like bitch, whore, baby, freak, dog. Those words send a message that females are less than human. Seeing them in such a light makes it easier to treat them without respect or to ignore their well being.
2.Communicate Sexual violence goes hand in hand with poor sexual communication. Our own discomfort in speaking about sexual issues dramatically raises the risk of rape. By learning effective means of sexual communication—stating your desires clearly and listening to your partner, men make sex safer for themselves and others.
3. Speak Up You may never see a rape in progress but you will hear jokes and language which is inappropriate and degrades women. When your best friend tells a joke about rape, tell him it is not funny. When laws are proposed that limit women’s rights, let politicians know that you won’t support them. Do anything but remain silent.
4.Support Survivors of Rape Rape will not be taken seriously until everyone understands how common it is. In the US alone, more than a million women are raped each year. By learning to sensitively support the survivors in their lives, men can help both women and men feel more comfortable about coming forward and talking about what has happened to them.
5.Contribute your time and Money Join or donate to an organization working to prevent violence against women. Rape Crisis Centers, Domestic Violence Shelters and similar groups depend on your donations for support. In Ashtabula County you can attend monthly meetings of the Violence Against Women Council. You can give support to Homesafe Incorporated.
6. Talk with Women If you’re willing to listen, there is much to be learned about how the “risk of being raped” affects women’s daily lives. Talk to them about it.
7.Talk with Men Talk about what it is like to be viewed as a potential rapist. Talk about the fact that 15-20% of all males will be sexually abused in their lifetime. Talk about whether they know any rape survivors. But start talking.
8. Organize Form an organization dedicated to stopping sexual violence. Men’s anti rape groups are powerful. They are gaining popularity on college campuses. If you have the time and the drive, you can make a powerful difference.
9.Work against ALL oppression
Rape feeds off of all forms of prejudice including racism, homophobia, and religious discrimination. By speaking out against behaviors that promote one group being superior to another, you support everyone’s equality. And finally…….
10.Don’t ever have sex with anyone against their will
No matter what.
SOURCE: The Men’s Rape Prevention Project: What Men Can Do